Our first loyalty is to ourselves. When we are truly self-present, only then can we be present to the world.
The world knows when we are self-present. When we are truly self-present the world cannot help but relax and open itself to us.
Learn and master the tools for ever deeper self-presence.
One such tool is Structured Self-Presence© (SSP), a tool that I developed or, developed me. An introduction to this practice can be found on this site. Another tool, building upon SSP is %60-%40. This too is described on this site.