If we want to change the way we react to situations, we must search these reactions for the original stimulus and situation that created this now hackneyed response.
We do this by truly relaxing into a mindful relationship with the current trigger situation. We allow our brain to harmonize with itself so that all the data buried within the patterns of brain are accessible to our higher cortical brain.
Our current reaction reveals the tip of the iceberg of a state of mind that is associated with some original trauma or difficult situation. By relaxing into a mindful relationship with this current situation, we are able to slide under the waters of the current situation and feel into the fullness of our brain’s reaction and feel our way into the roots of that reaction.
When we do this, we are bringing a part of our brain that is somewhat free from the past, that is capable of creativity and novel reactions to a part of the brain that is, in the current reactive situation, bound up with history. Neurologically we are able to recontextualize a rigid set of neurological patterns within a new and larger neurological context and dissolve those rigidities. Those former rigidities are no longer needed as a default setting for dealing with some set of dangers. The rest of the brain is now on the job and can free up these deeper structures for more contemporary and productive safety operations.
Given that we now have a more fully developed brain than we did during the original upset, we are now able to bring many more neurological and cognitive resources to that original situation and discover many more functional responses not only to that original situation but to situations like it that may occur now and in the future.